The darker side of a happy affect

The darker side of a happy affect

Some people seem to be happy all the time.

Some people never seem upset, and never seem to mind anything that happens to them.

This is often praised, especially when it’s the affect of people with severe disabilities (intellectual or otherwise).

But, it really isn’t a good thing

Stuff bothers people sometimes. Stuff *should* bother people sometimes. 

And if someone seems to be be happy all the time, it means that they’ve been taught that they’re not allowed to be upset, and they’re not allowed to object to anything or mind anything that’s done to them, ever. 
It means that, not only are they not allowed to say no, they’re not allowed to even want to say no, or give any indication that they’re not ok with something. 


If you spend a lot of time interacting with someone, and nothing seems to bother them, and they never say no to anything, then you should assume that something is wrong and start actively looking for ways to make it possible for them to say no to you and express preferences to you.