A short additional point about forgiveness

survivorwaver:

realsocialskills:

You can get distance without forgiving the person who hurt you.

In in particular, you can get past a point of being consumed by anger without forgiving the person who hurt you.

Because your recovery is not about that person. It’s about you. And you don’t have to forgive them to get them out of the center of your emotional life.

True. You can also remain angry about it and move on, because anger can also be about you and not the person who hurt and as long it’s not all consuming or aggressive it can also be a healthy choice.

Yes. It’s ok to be angry, and not ok to pressure victims to stop being angry.