re: talking bad about people as a red flag. in my experience, literally everyone on the planet complains about other people from time to time. this is part of normal adult social behavior as far as i can tell. someone who is constantly talking badly about others while simultaneously avoiding all confrontation is a red flag for sure, but if you wait for someone who never complains about anyone else EVER, you will be alone forever.
realsocialskills said:
Yes, this is definitely true.
Everyone does and should say bad things about other people sometimes.
The red flag is when someone’s saying bad things about other’s is like – a hobby, or something. It’s hard to describe. But it’s very destructive.