The sound of an apple being chewed drives me up the wall. Usually, when I am eating with someone and they pull out an apple, i can come up with a reason to excuse myself (bathroom, gotta take a phone call, etc.), but not always. I have also tried telling the truth: “i know this is unusual, but apple-chewing sounds make me really uncomfortable. I’ll be back when you’re done.” but that always makes people feel like i am trying to guilt them into not eating the apple, which is no good. Any advice?
realsocialskills said:
I hate that sound too. I don’t have great answers because there are no established rules for dealing with this kind of thing in a mutually respectful way.
I’ve found that sometimes if I also chew something, then it doesn’t bother me as much.
I think it might work a bit better to offer options. Like “apple-chewing really bothers me. I don’t want to stop you from eating an apple, but apple noises really bother me. Do you mind if I step out while you eat it?”
That’s the kind of thing people feel like it’s rude to say no to, generally. I think. I haven’t tried it much in practice. Usually I just put up with it, even though it really bothers me and I don’t want to.
Have any of y'all found an effective way of avoiding apple noises without offending people or pressuring them not to eat?