You had a piece on feeling unsafe vs. being unsafe and I wanted to add:
  • you are unsafe if people are pressuring you to do things that will use up spoons needed for survival
  • you are unsafe if you are around people who can get you to say things you don’t want to say
  • you are unsafe if you don’t understand what’s going on and the people around you have not earned your trust
  • you are unsafe if you see powerful people hurt someone else on the same power level as you, or if they deny power.

realsocialskills said:

Those are all important additions. Thank you. I’d also add a general rule: You are unsafe if everyone is trying to make you feel safe without first listening to you about the danger you're perceiving