Anonymous said to realsocialskills:
You had a piece on feeling unsafe vs. being unsafe and I wanted to add:
- you are unsafe if people are pressuring you to do things that will use up spoons needed for survival
- you are unsafe if you are around people who can get you to say things you don’t want to say
- you are unsafe if you don’t understand what’s going on and the people around you have not earned your trust
- you are unsafe if you see powerful people hurt someone else on the same power level as you, or if they deny power.
Those are all important additions. Thank you. I’d also add a general rule: You are unsafe if everyone is trying to make you feel safe without first listening to you about the danger you're perceiving.