bessibels:

realsocialskills:

Hi! I love your blog. I don’t know how many blind people read your blog (I heard Tumblr is pretty inaccessible for reading programs) but my friend, who is blind, mentioned that she was taught, in whatever social skills education she received, that there is a “friendship look” that establishes a relationship between sighted people. I was shocked! There are lots of looks that people can give each other, but, in my experience, this is not one of them. I just wanted to alert anybody else who may have heard the same thing.

realsocialskills said:

I’m not sure. It might be that sometimes when friends are in a group, they look at each other kind of to check in. 

I haven’t ever heard anything called a “friendship look” though. Have any of y’all?

bessibels said:

I think this is oversimplified, but not total bullshit. There are definitely times when looking at someone in a particular context or way makes a significant contribution to the understanding of a friendship between them. I’m thinking of things like when you’re in class and the teacher says to pick groups, and your eyes meet with someone else’s in a questioning or knowing way.

I guess I would say that while there’s no single, conclusive “friendship look,” you can share a look with someone that establishes some kind of momentary bond (agreement, emotional support, decision to do something together), and if you share enough of those looks with someone, and also have other indicators of friendship, then you’d end up considering yourselves friends. I think this might be significant and common enough to make a difference between the way sighted and visually impaired people make friends.