blue-jayne:

You are not alone

realsocialskills:

If you are being hurt by a person, they’re likely trying to convince you that no one else could possibly understand your relationship.

If you’re being hurt by your family, they’re likely trying to convince you that no one else could possibly understand your family.

If…

blue-jayne said:

this was the primary tactic of my abuser. an abuser will go out of their way to train you into this thought pattern:

“If you are being hurt by a person, they’re likely trying to convince you that no one else could possibly understand your relationship.”

the thought pattern that your “special” and “unusual” and “magically extraordinary and totally unique” relationship you have together cannot be understood by anyone else and- let me paraphrase my abuser- “everything about us would be ruined if we talked about how special this is.” They train you into this so that when the abuse escalates, you feel isolated and alone, as if no one could possibly help or understand you. The abuser is invalidating the help others may give you before you have even approached someone for help!

it took me years to realize that this was what he had done.