Social skills for autonomous people: boundary violations in therapy


do you know what particular boundary violations in therapy AREN’T considered unethical? because i am also studying to be a therapist and would very much like to avoid said boundary violations with future clients.

Assuming that just because someone is able to verbalise certain things (for example, answering questions which they have scripted) that they can verbalise what they are feeling, wanting, or needing currently. I have had therapists and others assume that it is a kind of refusal to discuss something when in fact I just didn’t have the ability to communicate it verbally.

This. I think the way therapists act is probably a major contributing reason that a lot of autistic kids cover their disabilities by pretending to be acting out on purpose.

this is one of the reasons I love the T.E.A.M. system my current therapist uses. after every session you rate your therapist on a lot of different things (“my therapist was caring and supportive. my therapist understood how i felt. they suggested useful things that i am going to try.”) on a scale of 0 to 4, and you also answer questions about how honestly you answered the other questions (“it was difficult for me to answer these questions honestly. it would be too difficult to tell my therapist if things weren’t working” that kind of thing.) I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the fact that my therapist uses this system AND just happens to be the therapist I’ve felt most comfortable with and felt most productive with, out of the six or seven or so I’ve seen over the past few years.

Wow, that sounds awesome.