Content note: This post is more Jewish-specific than usual. Feel free to reblog if it speaks to you for any reason.
A lot of seders are boring, but the haggadah itself is interesting.
One way to deal with boring seders is to ignore the boring conversation and read the interesting parts of the haggadah.
Unfortunately, a lot of haggadahs are printed in ways that make the content seem boring. Cheap haggadot tend to have really lousy translations that make it seem incomprehensible.
Understanding the interestingness of the haggadah can require some context. If you get a haggadah with good commentary, the story is likely to seem much more interesting.
One way to find good commentary is to go to a bookstore, flip through some different haggadot, and see which ones look interesting to you. If you bring a good haggadah, you might be more interested — and might be able to make the conversation more interesting for others as well. Haggadot.com also has some things that might help.
Another thing you can do is find supplements and alternative texts. A lot of organizations, movements, and even fandoms have them. For instance, Keshet has a whole collection of LGBTQ haggadot you can print, and here’s a Hamilton Haggadah. If you search for “[group/movement/fandom you care about] haggadah” you will most likely find something.
(Speaking of additions, here’s the original story of where the orange on the seder plate came from.)
(My other organization, Anachnu is actually working on a disability commentary, but it’s not out yet this year.)
Whatever text you’re using, here’s an approach to asking questions that are interesting to you.
Tl;dr Seders are often boring. The haggadah itself is interesting, especially with good commentary. Scroll up for thoughts on getting access to the good parts.