an inadvertantly creepy thing a lot of autistic people do


Sometimes autistic people want to hang out with a group of people and can’t tell if it’s ok to talk to them or not.

And then, they try to watch for a while to try and pick up on signs that…

dohegotthebunty said:

Any info on how to do this while dealing with serious anxiety about approaching/asking outright would be much appreciated too. Asking is terrifying for me, I feel like I need cues that it’s okay to even ask, which leads me back around to observation again.

realsocialskills said:

I hear that. I’m also afraid of approaching people, and it’s really, really hard to get past trying to solve the problem by watching for a while.

I’ve found that it can help to have a script that you use.

And, also, some situations mean that it’s unlikely to offend people that you’re asking. For instance, at a party, it’s usually ok to say hello and ask to join a conversation. If you’re at a lunch event that has tables, and the tables aren’t assigned, it’s ok to ask to join a group that’s already sitting at a table.

There are other situations like that too, but I’m not sure what they are.