Don't hang your identity on being counter-cultural.

mighty-masturbator:

realsocialskills:

cumaeansibyl:

realsocialskills:

It’s better when good things become mainstream.

If something is good and right, it’s best when everyone knows this and it’s not substantially controversial.

Opposing things hurts. 

There is a lot that is horribly wrong with the world, and a lot of fights that have to be fought. There are many lives in the balance (and other things). But the point isn’t the fight, and it’s not being outside the mainstream.

The point is the values and the people.

Serve your values, and your people. Fighting is a means. It is necessary. But it is not an end in itself. And you can serve your values and people best by looking for ways to serve them - and when that is fighting, to fight, and when that is building, to build.

When people make the fighting an end in itself, bad things happen.

Lots of people can’t be part of the mainstream but they’d like to be. Being excluded sucks in about a million different ways. This is a totally valid way to feel and prizing “counter-cultural” as superior tends to invalidate that.

Yes. For instance, if someone is bothered by never seeing someone who looks like them on TV, telling them that TV is just a capitalist tool to sell fast food anyway is *not* a good reaction.

people tend to have a kinda… fetishizing attitude about counter-culture, especially those people whose identities aren’t as challenged by society as other people’s. i feel like these people are the ones that cause this attitude to spread/be preached as good and positive

like how you can talk about how people are shitty to you because of a part of your identity and these people will tell you that you should be proud because it’s so cool and different, or that they wish they were like you, too.

happens a lot with mental illnesses; people will often say how they wish they had them too because it makes you so cool and creative.

or when trans women talk about the problems that come with being trans women in this society and cis women tell them how lucky they are that they can’t get pregnant.

just some common examples.

the divide between “it’s ok to be different” and “i wish i experienced the same forms of oppression you do” has to really be clarified to dispel this attitude because i’m sure most people don’t understand how harmful this glamorizing of oppression is.

i hope that makes sense?

Yes. It’s not just people outside the marginalized group who do this, though.