On names

pinkosicko:

realsocialskills:

Some people have names that other people joke about a lot.

For instance, if you have the same name as a famous celebrity.

Or the same unusual last name.

Or a vaguely similar last name.

Or a name that sounds like a pun.

Or a name that’s sort of similar to a swear. Or a word that sounds like a swear if you’re 7 and aren’t allowed to say real swears.

These jokes aren’t very funny, and they are *especially* unfunny when they’ve been repeated hundreds of times. Anyone with that kind of name has heard jokes about it many, many times, and is probably sick of it.

So if you meet a new person with that kind of name, don’t comment on it, because commenting on it is likely to annoy them and unlikely to do anything good. (But if they make a joke about it, it’s ok to be amused). 

this. the only real exception i’ll ever make to this is if you know the person really well and are comfortable enough with them, and even then…

a friend of mine is nicknamed bree, it sounds like “brie cheese” and i constantly call her cheese. i actually use it to say things like (you are my favorite brand of cheese” or “you are the cheese to my macaroni” and even if these are mostly harmless, i will still back off if she shows the slightest discomfort.

Yes; that is different.

There are contexts in which it is ok - but being introduced to a stranger is not one of them.