Things able-bodied people need to stop saying to the chronically ill.



• “At least you’re not dying!”
• “You’re only disabled if you let yourself be.”
• “You need to tell yourself you’re going to get better, else you won’t.”
• “But you can’t be in pain ALL the time, don’t exaggerate.”
• “You don’t LOOK ill.”

oneautisticturtle said:

I really get 

  • “You aren’t really autistic because you can speak”
  • “The pain can’t be that bad”
  • “I have asthma I know what it’s like [to have chronic migraines triggered by cigarette smoke]”
  • “You shouldn’t take any pills, it’s ruining your life to take pills”
  • “Aren’t migraines the worst? I hate having to work all day with a migraine?” [and then describing a tension headache, and then telling me I should be able to work with my migraines because they can work with their “migraines”, and all migraines must be like theirs]
  • Way too many “You can’t really have a problem with that” (frequently followed by purposefully causing sensory overload)
  • “If you really needed help, it’d be available”
  • “Be happy you can see! You need to be happy for what you do have! Others don’t have what you have!” [in response to things about me not being able to use vision effectively and having overload bad enough to be causing migraines from vision]
  • Enough discrediting of my pain that I start questioning if its a big deal (chronic pain + abnormal sensing of pain = it taking years and getting to the point of ankles collapsing even taking a step onto a bus to take it seriously, and even then not always taking it seriously)

When it comes to my autism + sensory processing, I hear a lot of it and write a lot in reply to try to educate. 

When it comes to my chronic pain, I hear a lot, and it actually has affected me, and how I react to myself. I’m struggling to take myself seriously, and trying to believe I really do have chronic pain. Despite the fact that I’ve been struggling with widespread pain for a year, and pain somewhere in my body for four years. Chronic pain needs to be more severe to count. I can usually walk without a cane so I’m fine, right?

That’s ableism.