Anonymous asked realsocialskills:Hi! I was reading through your suggestions about dealing with the problem of dirty dishes and I was wondering if you had ever done a similar post about dealing with the problem of a messy or dirty living space when that seems overwhelming. If that’s something you think you have things to say about, I’m sure I’d find that incredibly helpful. Thank you so much for running this blog, it’s made such a difference for me!
I wish I could, but I’m terrible at this and I haven’t managed to figure out how to keep my living space anywhere close to clean.
Some people have told me that they find Unfuck Your Habitat helpful. I personally haven’t really been able to use it because of the tone — it’s kind of yelly and says things like “go fucking deal with it”, and that doesn’t work for me.
But it also has very specific practical suggestions, so some people can use it.
Anyone else have suggestions?
I made a website, Goal-Fish for just this problem. It takes into consideration how many spoons you have, whether you’re overloaded or not, things like that, and it gives you something you can do based on that. For each task, there are detailed instructions you can open up that explain how to wash dishes or how to vacuum or even how to take a shower.
Goal-Fish can give you stuff to do even if you don’t have an account, but if you make an account (free/donationware), you can hide tasks after you finish them so that it doesn’t tell you to wash the windows 3 times in a day (for example). You can also add new tasks and edit the tasks it comes with.
I made Goal-Fish because I have a lot of trouble with executive function and it’s really hard for me to know where to start and I get stuck easily and don’t know what to do next. Also, stuff like the frying pan on my living room floor just becomes part of the scenery after a while that I know to step over but I don’t otherwise notice or know what to do about it — unless I’m prompted in very specific ways. So I made Goal-Fish to prompt me with just one thing at a time, no long lists of undone chores or nagging or shaming me for the mould growing in my sink or reminding me just how long it’s been since i last took out the trash.
On Goal-Fish, it doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you did something. You can do a little something now and a little something else later, and then it’ll be cleaner than it was.
Here are the accessibility features it has so far: http://goal-fish.org/help.php#accessibility If you need any that I didn’t think of, let me know.