Any variant of this conversation is a major red flag:
- Person: Please stop doing x
- Other person: I would never x! I’m not the kind of person who does x!
- Person: I’ve had problems with x in the past. Please make sure not to x.
- Other person: How dare you suggest I am the kind of…
Also, when a person turns a simple request to stop doing s/t annoying into a long “But I didn’t mean it! Let me tell you what I meant!” fest. I know you meant well, it’s still annoying and I still need you to stop doing it.
Yes, that too.