Social skills for autonomous people: A red flag: "I'm not that kind of person"

theragnarokd:

realsocialskills:

Any variant of this conversation is a major red flag:

  • Person: Please stop doing x
  • Other person: I would never x! I’m not the kind of person who does x!

Or this:

  • Person: I’ve had problems with x in the past. Please make sure not to x.
  • Other person: How dare you suggest I am the kind of…

Also, when a person turns a simple request to stop doing s/t annoying into a long “But I didn’t mean it! Let me tell you what I meant!” fest. I know you meant well, it’s still annoying and I still need you to stop doing it.

Yes, that too.