soilrockslove:

Social skills for autonomous people: Some things about speech

youneedacat:

realsocialskills:

Sometimes people have speech at some times, but not others.

Sometimes people have very fluid fluent speech sometimes, and choppy forced slow speech at other times.

Sometimes when people can’t speak, or have trouble speaking, it’s because something is wrong. Sometimes it’s because they’re…

I used to have a really hard time convincing people that sometimes lack of speech wasn’t overload or shutdown (or as psychiatry so inaccurately put it, ~anxiety~ or ~dissociation~), but rather just being myself.

And that far from always being a result of stress, speech caused me stress and lack of speech meant I was less stressed.

I knew the autism expert I saw was no expert when I heard her tell me that if we reduced my anxiety, I wouldn’t have to rely on my keyboard so much. Later on I found out she believed meltdowns and shutdowns were not sensory at all but rather ~off task behavior~, ~manipulation~, and ~tantrums~… And I lost my last shred of respect for her.

Ugh, such an “expert”. *facepalm*

Sometimes not speaking is tiredness or stress or overload, all these things can keep me from speaking.

But sometimes it’s just me being me.  Being close to other parts of the world.

I’ve also learned that losing language from “shutdown”/“overload” isn’t always bad.  This is one thing I learned from ‘Cons.  Going through the 'Con and losing/regaining speech, writing, sign language as things became more/less crowded.  And rolling on waves of color and sound and people.  And being OK.  Because I had a room to go back to, and a few disabled/disability smart friends to go to who would have my back.  (And my friend going through similar changes so that we would be switching communication modes as needed - like waves passing through.)

It can be beautiful.

Yes, this. This too.