In the United States, some people think of Thanksgiving as “the holiday everyone celebrates”, in part because it is celebrated by many people who don’t celebrate Christmas. But not everyone in the US celebrates Thanksgiving, and it’s important to acknowledge this.
Some reasons some people don’t celebrate;
- Thanksgiving has racist origins and is still used to teach racist ideas about Pilgrims and Indians.
- (United American Indians of New England holds an annual Day of Mourning protest against Thanksgiving)
- Some people follow religions that prohibit celebrating holidays, or that prohibit celebrating non-religious holidays
- Some people have eating disorders that make food-based holidays triggering or unpleasant
- Some people are alienated from family and find celebrating holidays unbearable
- Some people just don’t like it, or don’t want to
- Or any number of other reasons
If you celebrate Thanksgiving, don’t be a jerk to people who don’t. They have their reasons, which are their business and not yours. Don’t try to insist to them that everyone celebrates Thanksgiving, and don’t complain to others about their practices.
And especially, don’t suggest that not celebrating Thanksgiving means that they are somehow opposing broad values like gratitude, togetherness, delicious food, love, or peace. It just means they don’t celebrate Thanksgiving for whatever reason.
Some people don’t celebrate Thanksgiving, and that’s ok. You can connect with them at other times. Don’t be a jerk about the fact that there’s one day of the year where your practices are different than theirs.