Anonymous said to realsocialskills:
Hi I was wondering what door holding etiquette is in any relevant social context, because I only recently became aware that this is a thing, and since then still can’t figure it out.
I also find this almost completely baffling.
If someone is close behind you as you walk through a door (how close is an awkward matter of judgment, but I usually go with “within ten feet and you can tell they’re heading for the door”) you’re usually supposed to do this kind of holding it without going out of your way too much thing. Like you go through the door and then pause holding it open with your arm behind you - or if they’re close, just keep it pulled open for a moment longer. Just enough so that they don’t have the door slam in their face as they get to it, basically. You don’t have to wait for them to walk through the door, just for them to grab it from you.
Once in a while, people will actually go out of their way to hold doors for me -stand there, holding it open, waiting until I walk through. I find that awkward and I’m pretty sure it’s not expected - the only exception being if I’m carrying a large object.