survivablyso replied to your post “Anonymous said: how do you tell the difference between when…”
I sometimes ask for outside perspective from people who aren’t even at all familiar with the situation. Strangers, even. I test them by floating situations to which I know the answer first. If they’re reasonable, I’ll use them to figure it out.
How do you find people to ask? Do you talk to people on Tumblr or Reddit or something? Or in person? I can see how this might work, but having trouble figuring out how you’d identify people willing to have that kind of conversation with a stranger.