swamiswan:

realsocialskills:

I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew the rules for getting your haircut (or nails done, etc) at a salon?  For years, I paid a friend of the family to cut my hair, when needed, but occasionally I want to go to a salon but I have no idea what the rules are.  

I know you tip, but how much?  I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the owner (one time I went and tried to tip him, and I got the sense that I had done something wrong) but I am not sure.  What is the process for tipping?

Is it rude to not engage is smalltalk with the hairdresser while they are cutting your hair?  Is it okay to stay quiet if they don’t say anything?  What are appropriate topics?  

I’m unsure about a lot about this, and probably have more questions I can’t think of right now.  

realsocialskills answered:

I actually have no idea; it’s been years since I’ve managed to get a haircut.

But I bet some of y’all know. Anyone want to take this one?

swamiswan said:

Speaking as someone whose social skills anxiety is often a barrier to getting a “proper” haircut, here are my rules:

1) I tip by rounding up to the nearest ten. So if my cut is £35, I round it to £40. At my current place, it costs £39, so I round to £45. I think some people might tip more than this? I work a low-paid/public-sector job, so I think this is a reasonable amount for me.

2) It’s not rude not to chit-chat with the haridresser (according to me, anyway!). I tend to answer their questions, but bring a magazine or a book as a clear “I don’t want to talk to you and am busy with something else”.

3) If you have problems with describing your haircut (which I do), then do some picture research and bring a pic/some pics, or practice with a friend so that you have your “script” ready.