autistic body language

some replies about atypical ways some people show pain

monsterquill replied to your post“A question about pain”
often i either make a face but stay completely silent, or say “ow” but my
face stays completely blank.
also when I was a little kid, my siblings were sick and my mom was taking care of them, but later it turned out i was the sickest of all and had to go to the hospital, and she hadn’t known bc unlike my siblings I hadn’t shown any sign of distress.

ipsticklizbienne replied to your post“A question about pain”

i honestly never thought about this and that’s weird i’ve always just added more pain (?) to my leg especially so when i chose to take it away the natural pain seemed less intense but i also just stop talking
aura218 replied to your post“A question about pain”
I don’t think I do show pain. My mother always said “you don’t act sick when you’re sick.” As an adult, I’ve had doctors blow off my symptoms b/c I don’t act sick or hurt.
kinthulou replied to your post“A question about pain”
Self-diagnoses autie with fibromyalgia here: I usually show pain by moving less. I’ll stop bouncing and swaying and doing a lot of things and move slower. I’ll also talk less, but usually remain cheery. People just think I’m less excitable or tired.
dohegotthebunty replied to your post“A question about pain”
i knew a little girl who was always pretty energetic and in-your-face so everyone assumed it would be really obvious if she was hurt but she clammed up when she broke her arm and no one realized for a couple hours
im-significant replied to your post“A question about pain”
I get very short-tempered and want to be left alone. I may react to light, sound, touch, etc by flinching, freezing, or sometimes lashing out. My verbal skills also get worse when I am in pain, so asking me what’s wrong/trying to help often makes it worse
chavisory replied to your post“A question about pain”
I can get really quiet, or really snappish and cranky.
ragingpeacock replied to your post“A question about pain”
I dunno if it is unusual, but I tend to get irritated/overemotional. i also hug myself. i feel like i show pain more obviously than most people. or maybe I’m just in pain more often. oh yeah just remembered sometimes I grab at my hair and clothing
skelletonclique replied to your post“A question about pain”
I’m not disabled, but a disabled friend of mine shows pain by covering their ears and/or freezing a lot of the time.

About rocking

Among other things: Rocking is body language. Rocking is emotions. 

There is a slow happy!rock. And an anxiety!rock. And anger. And affection. And any number of others. And they are not the same.

And it is possible to look and understand. It is possible to learn how to read rocking, to know what it’s showing.

This is body language. Meaning shown on a body.

They tell us that we do not have body language, that we have a flat affect. And then they try to make this true; they try to flatten us and stop us from moving and showing emotional body language.

But we aren’t flat. We have body language. And rocking is part of it. (And any number of other movements. Not just rocking. But rocking is on my mind.)

I can’t tell you how to read it. Not much. Not yet. I’m trying to figure out some of the words for that. It is hard to describe body language in words, even body language that is socially valued enough that a lot of people have tried. All the more so this.

What I can tell you is that autistic movement is meaningful. Not mysterious. Not ethereal. Not in-another-world. Meaningful, present, and possible to understand.

(Not simple. Communication between people is never simple, and never formulaic. Meaningful. Complicated.)

Keep that in mind. The first step to understanding is knowing that there is something to understand.