makeup

Is it unprofessional to not wear makeup? Because I have really bad sensory processing issues and wearing it is just super uncomfortable for me, especially eyeliner, but I have a job interview soon and I’m wondering if it would be best if I just tough it out for the duration of the interview and wipe it off immediately or…?
realsocialskills said:
That’s complicated. Makeup and other outward signs of gender conformity can help you to be perceived as professional.
It’s not an absolute requirement, though.
It’s also not all or nothing. I think the biggest thing that bothers people is visible acne, because it’s associated with being a teenager. So, for instance, you might use foundation to make your skin look smooth, but not use eyeliner since eyeliner really bothers you, and unlined eyes probably won’t bother an interviewer. 
If wearing makeup is going to make you extremely uncomfortable, it might be better for you to go without, even in practical terms. Interviewers don’t like it if you look visibly uneasy or on edge. Interviewers look at affect a lot. If you’re in pain from makeup, it will be harder to maintain the right affect.
Something that can help with coming off right to interviews is doing a practice interview with someone who knows how interviews work. This is particularly helpful if you have a friend who works for the same company or a similar one do the practice interview. Questions are easiest to answer if you’ve answered them before. It’s easier to maintain interview affect if you’re comfortable answering the likely questions.
Do any of y'all have thoughts about makeup and interviews?

Dealing with unwanted blushing

pinkxxkiss:

realsocialskills:

I’m not sure if this falls under social skills, but is there a way to prevent blushing? whenever I talk to people my face gets abnormally red and everyone comments on it (what’s wrong with your face, are you ok, etc) which only makes me blush more. i have social anxiety as it is, so talking to people is hard enough without my face feeling like it’s on fire. thank you
realsocialskills said:
I don’t know of a way to avoid blushing. I’m posting this in hopes that one of y’all does.
One thing that occurs to me is that maybe wearing foundation would help? The basic purpose of foundation is to be opaque enough to hide marks on your face, so maybe it would hide blushing? I haven’t tried that, but it seems like it plausibly might work.
Have any of y’all tried using foundation to hide blushing? Does it work? Do you know other things that work?

pinkxxkiss said:

Another suggestion (to foundation, which can really help, even if it’s just a light layer of powder) is to go to a Doctor. My face is super red a lot of the time and I also have pretty serious long term acne. I’ve found that when my acne is more under control (ie my medication for that is working) my face is usually far less red.

As well as acne there’s rosacea, which can be mistaken for acne, but is also very treatable. It can cause so much facial redness, but actually be treated.

So, basically, if you can go to a GP; do so. They might be able to really help you. (And there might even be other underlying, and treatable, causes they could help you with.)

Good luck! :)

swampfucker : 
 
 oh yea before i forget: for all my disabled/chronic pain-having/shaky-handed femmes, there’s this shop on etsy that sells eyeliner temporary tattoos in packs of 4 diff designs for 4.50 for on those days where the shakiness/pain/etc is too bad to do ur makeup but u still want to look good 
 u can buy em  here  
 
 realsocialskills said: 
 Have any of y'all tried something like this? 
 I’d like to know if that’s something that creates the option of wearing makeup.

swampfucker:

oh yea before i forget: for all my disabled/chronic pain-having/shaky-handed femmes, there’s this shop on etsy that sells eyeliner temporary tattoos in packs of 4 diff designs for 4.50 for on those days where the shakiness/pain/etc is too bad to do ur makeup but u still want to look good

u can buy em here

realsocialskills said:

Have any of y'all tried something like this?

I’d like to know if that’s something that creates the option of wearing makeup.