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mellopetitone:

Hierarchies of cussing

realsocialskills:

I’ve never understood which swearwords are worse than others. It’s only in very recent years that I’ve heard people saying that the c-word is the worst of all. Before that I assumed the f-word was the worst swearword. Is there a pretty specific…

mellopetitone said:

Also, some words are considered swears by some and not by others. These, if considered swears or “bad words”, are generally considered to be some of the milder ones and, as mentioned in the original post, are often considered appropriate for some ages and not others. Examples are words like “crap”, “freaking”, “stupid”. (“Crap” is usually a substitute for “sh*t”. “Freaking” is usually a substitute for “f*cking”. “Freak” is only rarely a substitute for “f*ck”.)

These words are in a middle area where some people consider them swears/words that have restricted use and are inappropriate to say usually, but others consider them as mild/non-swear replacements for swear words and most others consider them to be just as mild as any other word in the language.

These words may gain some force when used to replace a swear word, especially if said with strong emotions. An example is “*angrily* You’re full of crap!” That use has more negativity than saying “Crap!” when you accidentally drop what you’re carrying or refer to something you dislike by saying “Oh, not that crap again.”

realsocialskills said:

Also sometimes the level of force is more important than which words are being used.

Some people’s “darn it” is more frightening than other people’s “fuck off”.

Don’t touch wheelchairs without permission

Touching someone’s wheelchair, or other mobility equipment, is a really big deal. You shouldn’t ever do this without permission.

Part of the reason this is a big deal is that most mobility equipment users experience their mobility device as part of their body. It’s invasive and bad to touch people without their permission.

But it’s actually even more wrong to touch mobility equipment without permission than it is to touch someone without permission generally. 

Messing up someone’s mobility equipment means they can’t get around. It can also sometimes cause immediate injury. It can also lead to injury by making the equipment less safe to use (for instance, if you screw up someone’s cushion and they can’t afford to get it fixed right away, that could cause a pressure sore.)

Touching mobility equipment without permission is a threat to use dangerous force and hurt someone or leave them stranded. Even if you don’t mean to be threatening. Even if you think you’re helping the person. Even if you think you’d never hurt anyone. It’s never ok to make another person that vulnerable without their permission (unless someone else is physically attacking you and you are in danger to the point that violent self-defense is justified.).

It’s sort of like… you don’t touch people without their permission. And you *especially* don’t grab someone without permission. And you *especially espeically* don’t put your hand on someone’s throat without permission. 

Moving someone’s mobility equipment without permission is like attacking someone with handcuffs. (Or worse).

Don’t do it.