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lanthir:

Food delivery etiquette

vampirequing:

realsocialskills:

I feel silly asking this but: what is the etiquette for answering the door for mail/pizza deliveries? Specifically, is it rude if I answer the door in (non-revealing) PJs with unbrushed hair and just…

lanthir said:

I used to be a pizza delivery guy!  

As to etiquette, food deliverers really do not care what you’re wearing or if you are adequately groomed.  I’ve had people come to the door in everything from a three-piece suit to just wrapped up in a huge blanket.  One time I showed up just as the person was trying to catch her toddler and make them put their clothes back on, so there was a naked baby running around.  It doesn’t matter.  We really don’t care.  

As to leaving the money and a note on the door?  Um, I dunno.  I guess if you are really careful to make sure it’s the right amount (please include a tip!!)?  I think if someone had done that when I was delivering, I might have thought it was kinda weird, but I wouldn’t have been offended or thought it was rude.  This really only works if you’re paying with cash though!  So, remember that if you pay with a card, you’ll have to sign the receipt.  

Basically, delivery drivers are used to having people treat us badly.  Our standards of etiquette are generally pretty low.  Just, remember to tip, have payment ready when we get there, and don’t come to the door naked unless you’ve given advance warning.  And don’t yell at us.  That’s pretty much all it takes to make a delivery driver happy.

swamiswan:

realsocialskills:

I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew the rules for getting your haircut (or nails done, etc) at a salon?  For years, I paid a friend of the family to cut my hair, when needed, but occasionally I want to go to a salon but I have no idea what the rules are.  

I know you tip, but how much?  I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the owner (one time I went and tried to tip him, and I got the sense that I had done something wrong) but I am not sure.  What is the process for tipping?

Is it rude to not engage is smalltalk with the hairdresser while they are cutting your hair?  Is it okay to stay quiet if they don’t say anything?  What are appropriate topics?  

I’m unsure about a lot about this, and probably have more questions I can’t think of right now.  

realsocialskills answered:

I actually have no idea; it’s been years since I’ve managed to get a haircut.

But I bet some of y’all know. Anyone want to take this one?

swamiswan said:

Speaking as someone whose social skills anxiety is often a barrier to getting a “proper” haircut, here are my rules:

1) I tip by rounding up to the nearest ten. So if my cut is £35, I round it to £40. At my current place, it costs £39, so I round to £45. I think some people might tip more than this? I work a low-paid/public-sector job, so I think this is a reasonable amount for me.

2) It’s not rude not to chit-chat with the haridresser (according to me, anyway!). I tend to answer their questions, but bring a magazine or a book as a clear “I don’t want to talk to you and am busy with something else”.

3) If you have problems with describing your haircut (which I do), then do some picture research and bring a pic/some pics, or practice with a friend so that you have your “script” ready.

acertaininefficiency:

realsocialskills:

I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew the rules for getting your haircut (or nails done, etc) at a salon?  For years, I paid a friend of the family to cut my hair, when needed, but occasionally I want to go to a salon but I have no idea what the rules are.  

I know you tip, but how much?  I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the owner (one time I went and tried to tip him, and I got the sense that I had done something wrong) but I am not sure.  What is the process for tipping?

Is it rude to not engage is smalltalk with the hairdresser while they are cutting your hair?  Is it okay to stay quiet if they don’t say anything?  What are appropriate topics?  

I’m unsure about a lot about this, and probably have more questions I can’t think of right now.  

realsocialskills answered:

I actually have no idea; it’s been years since I’ve managed to get a haircut.

But I bet some of y’all know. Anyone want to take this one?

acertaininefficiency said:

Back when I had a regular hairdresser, in the mid-to-late 00’s, the rules I worked out seemed to go like this:

  • Tip your hairdresser specifically, 10-15%. Usually I would just find my hairdresser up front when we were done and I was ready to leave and hand her the cash. If I couldn’t find her, I would ask someone up front to give it to her for me and hand it to them.
  • It’s a little odd not to respond when your hairdresser attempts smalltalk, but if you can work out appropriate light responses to common kinds of smalltalk, usually you don’t have to alter your script all that much.
  • It’s fine to stay quiet if they don’t say anything.
  • The kind of smalltalk you’d engage in with coworkers, or with a sales clerk, is generally appropriate. If there’s anything coming up in either of your lives that you’re excited about, like a vacation, or starting school or a new job, that’s a good topic. Complaining briefly about common small problems like finding hair products that work for you is also good, especially if you suspect the hairdresser may share your problem and be able to commiserate.
  • If you see the same person regularly, more personal topics may also become appropriate, like answering questions about how you feel about your hair and why you like it cut the way you do. Maybe don’t wax poetic about it, that could get a little weird, but short simple answers are good.

emeraldincandescent:

realsocialskills:

I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew the rules for getting your haircut (or nails done, etc) at a salon?  For years, I paid a friend of the family to cut my hair, when needed, but occasionally I want to go to a salon but I have no idea what the rules are.  

I know you tip, but how much?  I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the owner (one time I went and tried to tip him, and I got the sense that I had done something wrong) but I am not sure.  What is the process for tipping?

Is it rude to not engage is smalltalk with the hairdresser while they are cutting your hair?  Is it okay to stay quiet if they don’t say anything?  What are appropriate topics?  

I’m unsure about a lot about this, and probably have more questions I can’t think of right now.  

realsocialskills answered:

I actually have no idea; it’s been years since I’ve managed to get a haircut.

But I bet some of y’all know. Anyone want to take this one?

emeraldincandescent said:

You tip whoever cuts your hair. Usually, you give the tip at the same time as you pay. Tipping is usually 15-20%, same as standard elsewhere. 

You don’t have to engage in small talk if you don’t want to. If they’re talking, you can just go, “Um-hm,” and “yeah” a lot unless they ask you specific questions. If they don’t say anything, you don’t have to, although if the silence feels awkward and you would like to break it, you can. School, sports, the weather, and other standard small talk topics are safe. Also, hairdressers often like to talk about celebrities, particularly their style, so if you saw a celebrity at an award show that had a haircut/dress/makeup you liked, you could talk about that. Usually, though, the hairdresser will instigate small talk, so if you’re worried about awkward silences, you shouldn’t be.

Also, as a paying customer, you have the right to not engage in small talk or whatever you need to feel comfortable. Especially if you tip well, the hairdresser probably won’t care if you seem “weird” as long as you’re polite and treat them with respect.

I was wondering if you or any of your followers knew the rules for getting your haircut (or nails done, etc) at a salon?  For years, I paid a friend of the family to cut my hair, when needed, but occasionally I want to go to a salon but I have no idea what the rules are.  

I know you tip, but how much?  I don’t think you’re supposed to tip the owner (one time I went and tried to tip him, and I got the sense that I had done something wrong) but I am not sure.  What is the process for tipping?

Is it rude to not engage is smalltalk with the hairdresser while they are cutting your hair?  Is it okay to stay quiet if they don’t say anything?  What are appropriate topics?  

I’m unsure about a lot about this, and probably have more questions I can’t think of right now.  

realsocialskills answered:

I actually have no idea; it’s been years since I’ve managed to get a haircut.

But I bet some of y'all know. Anyone want to take this one?

Question for y'all about food delivery

matchbook-stories:

realsocialskills:

I know that it is possible to order food and have it delivered, but I don’t quite know how it works.

Specifically:

  • How much are you supposed to tip on delivery orders?
  • Sometimes there is a delivery fee. Does that count as a tip, or do you still have to tip on top?

matchbook-stories

I’m not 100% on this so I’m interested in other answers. But I used to order food from an aggregate service called grub hub, and it offered the chance to automatically tip. The denominations were 10, 15, and 20%. I suspect delivery fee goes to the restaurant and not the driver.