you know when harry is told, “you’re a wizard”
and all the mess and the weirdness and the Things Other People Don’t Do and the namecalling and everything, all of a sudden they make sense because he knows this thing about himself which explains it all and it’s not his fault any more, and what’s more, there’s a community of people who have experienced the exact same thing that he can now relate to?
that’s what a correct diagnosis feels like
“don’t label yourself” my arse
it’s also what it’s like to find a community of people similar to you who understand, even without diagnosis.