children of the stars: Supporting people who are overly apologetic




Some people apologize all the time, for everything. This can be very annoying.

Here’s a conversation:

  • Mary: I like ice cream. I don’t want to order a slice of cake. I’m sorry.
  • Darlene: Dude, you don’t have to apologize!
  • Mary:…

A lot of the time, when I over-apologize, I don’t even mean it. I say “I’m sorry” reflexively, like “how are you?”; it doesn’t actually mean anything.

So sometimes it’ll go like this:

  • me, “sorry”
  • person “Oh, it wasn’t your fault”
  • me (thinking) “No shit it wasn’t my fault, jerk”

But yeah, getting annoyed at over-apologizing won’t help, thanks for posting this.