warlocksexalways:

Social skills for autonomous people: Anonymous asked realsocialskills: Do you have any tips on how to…

realsocialskills:

Do you have any tips on how to figure out who is trustworthy and who is not? As in whether or not someone intends to cause harm to you, etc. I find that I never realize I’m being mistreated until it’s too late, and it makes it really hard for…

warlocksexalways said:

Thank you for this.

It’s also important to not think about things in terms of whether or not you’re being fair in your assessment of someone, or whether or not that person can help what they do. If what they do hurts you, and they can’t help it, that’s not a call for your understanding, that’s a call for you to leave. You can’t be around someone who is going to endlessly hurt you and compassion for them is not going to help.

I think we have a tendency to think of rejection as punishing someone, or judging their character, but it doesn’t have to be either of those things. You always have a right to go.