when you want to be friends with someone

anonymous asked: 


I need advice. There’s a girl at my school that I really like and I want to be her friend, but I’m so awkward! She’s one of the nicest people I’ve ever met.


She’s an international student from Somalila and she’s Muslim (I’m REALLY interested in learning about Islam) but neither of us are ver forward people, and it’s hard for me to make friends.


How do I approach her and talk to her without it being too weird? I’m also very religious but I don’t want her to think the only reason I talk to her is because she’s a Muslim, and I don’t want to make her uncomfortable. Advice?



realsocialskills:


How do you know her and know that she is nice? However that way is, it’s probably a way you could get to know her better: Eg: Do you have a class together, or do an activity together? Can you talk to her at the thing? Can you talk to her immediately after the thing?


It’s also ok to say explicitly that you think someone is nice and that you’d like to get to know them better. (I’m not totally sure how you do that without risking sounding like you’re hitting on them, but I know it can be done.)


Can you invite her to do a thing? If you’re both students it’s generally socially acceptable to ask if they want to eat together in the dinning hall. Especially if you both usually eat there. (If she is very religious she might not eat there. But a lot of religious Muslims do).


You also might try friending her on Facebook. That can be a good way to offer connection without too much pressure. (Among other things, it can result in stuff like you noticing and commenting on each others statuses and inviting each other to events.)


Be careful not to hang your interest in learning about Islam on her. It’s great that you want to learn about Islam and it’s great that you want to be her friend, but they’re different things. If she wants to talk about that, that’s fine, but be careful about connecting them too much. And, don’t assume that being friends and having fun together will necessarily mean that she wants to teach you about Islam. It might, and it might not.