If you think someone is a jerk.
And then you’re attracted to them sexually.
Or they offer you a job you really want.
Or they introduce you to a really cool group of people you look forward to spending time with.
Or you otherwise want something from them.
And then you stop feeling like they’re a jerk.
They’re probably still a jerk. You were probably right the first time.
If you think you’re right now, think through why that is. Why did you think they were a jerk before? Do you have new information? Has anything changed?
Don’t just assume your now-good feeling about them is right.
Wishful thinking is a powerful thing, and it can lead you astray.