Some people are really creepy about survivors. (Or people who they perceive as survivors, often inaccurately.)
They treat trauma like permission. Like it gives them the right to boundless authority over you.
They see you as broken, and they think that means they’re entitled to fix you.
They act like you don’t know yourself, can’t know yourself, and shouldn’t think for yourself.
(And they may repeatedly trigger you on purpose in an effort to make you feel disoriented enough to believe them.)
They think that every opinion they have about you is the insight that will heal you. They think that you are somehow obligated to accept uncritically any purported wisdom they decide to bestow upon you.
They think that their love can heal you. They act like their desire to heal you with love means you’re somehow obligated to gratefully accept whatever expression of love they want to bestow upon you.
They act like their perspective should replace yours. They act like their desire to help you somehow obligates you to agree with everything they think.
They act like you’ll be better if you let them take over emotionally. Like you somehow can’t be trusted with feelings. Like you shouldn’t have feeling of your own anymore. Like you should have theirs instead.
People shouldn’t do this to you. It’s wrong, it’s creepy, and you don’t have to cooperate with it.
You are a person. You are allowed to have your own feelings. You are allowed to think for yourself.
You are allowed to decide who, if anyone, you want to be emotionally intimate with. You are allowed to decide whose advice you want. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to disagree with people, even if they mean well and want to help. You are allowed to make choices about what help, if any, you want to accept, and who, if anyone, you want to accept it from.
You are you. You are allowed to be you. And nothing that happened to you gives others the right to try to turn you into someone else.